By Hamsathvani
I was brought up as a studious girl. I never want to invest my time in love or marriage. But one day I lost my dad unexpectedly. Being a child with no siblings, and lost only male companion in my life.. I decided to get married. Since I never had any prior experience in love I don’t have any idea on how I should choose my life partner. In India most families prefer arrange marriages. The society slowly trying to accept the concept of love marriages..
I met a guy with his parents, but I never thought he s my perfect partner. Still my situation was bad, I am in a necessity to find some male companion to lead my life. As I was brought up as a dependent child. A family without a male s seen as cursed family in India. I never had any feelings towards him but I felt like I should get married to him. Judging him by seeing his reserved nature, I thought may be it’s my destiny. Irrespective of any other match my urge to get marry soon made me to accept this proposal.
I married him.. In one week of marriage he ditched me and left to other city to continue his job.. Then why you married me s the question I asked him for which the answer is, he believed his second life only will last.. Hence married a woman to clear his past karmic debt.. I was shocked shattered went to depression couldn’t heal for long years..
I was searching answers related to karma.. Why even I got attracted or accepted a man who is disloyal to me)?.. I know him two months before marriage why I ignored or failed to notice all red flags.. Is it karma or destiny.. My answer is, I was destined to marry this person to clear my past karma.. But if I had awareness about myself and my expectations there are possibilities that I might have overcome this bad relationship even before marriage..
Even when I was legally separated I couldn’t heal myself. My anger towards them, created negative karma to me.. Even when they did injustice, their life was moving in positive direction. But I was stuck in the past.. I want to tell everyone who face betrayal or cheating in relationship, yes it’s hard to forgive it’s hard to move on.. But remember why we selected a karmic partner who came to teach us a lesson or learn from us.. It is a karmic trap caused by our past life or ancestors unfinished karma.. It is a trap and if we fail to recognize and forgive others we will be stuck in this karmic trap forever.. Whereas we can see the one who betrayed moves in a positive direction..
The universe knows the art of balancing the time we understand it’s a trap and we should move on.. Once you move on, forgive others who hurted you, it means you left it to universe to give the right judgment. The first step I would suggest anyone who is betrayed abandoned cheated and continue to suffer because of heart breaks please forgive and move on.. It all starts with you.. Then the universe will restore the balance in its own way.
About author:
A little innocent girl from a village, who is now a grown up woman in her thoughts, way of thinking, way of seeing the society.. Completed her graduation in engineering. Interested in writing, public speaking, one who likes singing and a lover of arts. A woman who is thriving hard to change some of the views of society related to woman’s suppression, and learning to grow it from it through the knowledge of karma
